How I learned to make more friends

Socializing and making friends can feel really intimidating, especially if you’re also trying to be funny! Most people aren’t naturally funny, and it’s normal to struggle in social situations. Fortunately, you can improve these skills with a little practice. If you’re ready to get out there and make some friends, start by going places where you can meet new people and have fun. Additionally, practice starting conversations, keeping them going, and inserting humor. Overcome your nerves by improving your social skills and building your confidence.

However, keeping your focus on them will make them see you as a more interesting, caring person. Turn off the sound on your phone when you’re out socializing, and don’t check your notifications while you’re in a conversation with someone.[1]

  • If you need to check your phone regularly, set aside time to do that. For instance, you might step away every hour to review your notifications.
  • If you might receive a call that you need to take immediately, you can set your phone to “Do Not Disturb” and make that phone number an exception. For instance, you may need to allow calls from your babysitter.
  • Identify your best qualities to improve your self esteem. Everyone is unique and interesting in their own way. To help you recognize your awesome qualities, make a list of your talents, skills, and interests. Additionally, pick out your best physical qualities so you can play them up. Over time, this will help you feel more confident.[2]
  • For example, you might write down that you play guitar, enjoy reading thrillers, like cats, and prefer staying home to going out.
  • Your favorite physical qualities might be your eyes and your legs.
  • Use open body language, like smiling and making eye contact. When you use open body language, people think you’re more approachable. The easiest way to appear more open is to smile, make eye contact, and tilt your chin up. Additionally, avoid crossing your arms. Instead, keep them down at your sides. When you walk, use good posture by straightening your back and shoulders.[3]
  • When you’re listening to someone, look at them and nod along to show them you understand.
  • If you’re talking, try to use hand gestures to involve people in the conversation. It’s helpful to practice doing this while you’re alone so that it feels natural when you do it with other people.