Abandonment issues can be hard to deal with. Not only do they cause emotional pain and anxiety. But the unresolved feelings from abandonment often lead to physical and mental health problems as well.Abandonment issues take many forms, but the common theme is that a person feels abandoned. In some cases, this feeling of abandonment might be triggered by something occurring in the present moment or it could have been caused by an event from the past. This latter form of abandonment issue is usually linked to childhood and can occur because parents were not emotionally available or physically present.
People who struggle with abandonment issues often feel a sense of emptiness and loneliness. They may also feel insecure and anxious as if they are constantly on the lookout for potential threats to their safety or well-being.
In some cases, people with abandonment issues might become clingy and dependent on others, while in other instances they may withdraw from social interaction and appear aloof and uninterested in connection with others.
This is when your parents or caregivers failed to meet what you believed was their role as a parent/caregiver. This can include:
- Not meeting your basic needs such as food, clothing, and shelter
- Failure to recognize the emotions that you were feeling
- Not listening or paying attention when you wanted them to listen
- Being there physically but not emotionally
- Ignoring your thoughts and feelings
- Allowing others in their family/social circle (i.e., grandparents) to take care of you instead
- Being overly critical or judgmental as a caregiver